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सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात

IMPORTANT

This third chapter of the basics of WHAT TO DO on suhagraat, (सुहागरात) is perhaps the most important and my doctor tells a reason that is the simplest of all.

MY DOCTOR TELLS definition of Good Girl
A good girl is supposed to be the girl who does not speak about sex, does not watch those kinds of things, does not touch or explore her own sexual organs.

WHAT I MEAN BY SUHAGRAT सुहागरात OR FIRST SEX?

By suhagraat, सुहागरात I mean not only the first night of wedding, but also the first few weeks.
By suhagraat, I mean not only wedding, but I mean first sex or first few making outs before first sexual intercourse in a relationship that is committed, married or otherwise.

MY DOCTOR TELLS THE

REASON

How can a girl who has never stood naked with all her clothes off in her own home in front of a mirror be comfortable with the idea of sleeping (sexual act is way beyond) naked on the first day of the marriage सुहागरात with a person whom she knows just for a short period?

SEX IS A FOUR LETTER WORD, LOVE.

SOCIO CULTURAL MEANING

WHO IS ‘GOOD GIRL’?

Even today (‘Today’ as used here is not just the time of my writing this. This ‘today’ is going to be ‘today’, whichever decade you are reading this.) socio-cultural norms in Asian Indians define a good girl as chaste^[2], not talking, asking, and doing anything about the three-letter word ‘sex’. A good girl is supposed to be the girl who does not speak about sex, does not watch those kinds of things, does not touch or explore her own sexual organs.

THINK OF HER PLIGHT

Can you imagine the magnitude of her plight on suhagraat सुहागरात?
You cannot imagine if you are a guy. The Good Girls, however, will accede to this.

FIRST IMPRESSION
Most likely, you are dating or engaged to such a Good Girl. So bear in mind: When you are gentle and not pouncing on her as an animal (She remembers the rape scene) for sex, she will respect you more. This would be your first impression. The boy is kind, considerate and does not force himself on the girl, but gives time for more intimacy and her willingness before he indulges in insertion.

MY DOCTOR TELLS HAVE SEX. NO SEX
DOCTOR DOES NOT MEAN ‘NO SEX’.
MY DOCTOR TELLS

DEFINITION OF SEX

I am not saying, “Do not have sex”. Sex is not just peno-vaginal insertion.
Sex, is a four letter word, LOVE.
Love includes trust, time, talk; touch . . . ^[1] insertion is far away, unless you are with a prostitute.

MAKING OUT . MAKING LOVE . FOREPLAY
Have foreplay as much as you wish as many days/weeks as you wish, literally to your heart’s content, but refrain from insertion of penis, the sexual intercourse till she is okay with it.

Note
VIRGIN ^[2]
Virgin girl may not be chaste.
Chaste girl may not be virgin.

Acknowledgement
1
The T’s of love 1. Trust 2. Time 3. Talk 4. Touch are derived from Dr. Mahinder Watsa’s talk.
2
Dr. Prakash Kothari’s famous definition and distinction of VIRGINITY