teen v/s routine
masturbation v/s sex

brain is our most important sex organ

• pamper yourself -relax
• set the environment
• candle light – bed sheet – scent- music
• what turns you on – lingerie
• sex is a dance solo or partner affair
• sounds of ecstasy is turn on
• make lots of noise and let yourself go
• 100% comfortable
• foreplay is funtastic

Source:
http://www.cherrytv.com/video/why-we-love-masturbation

QUESTION

Hello,
I’ve read numerous articles on reaching orgasm for women, but I still haven’t found the answer I really want. I understand that it is normal for a woman not to have an orgasm with penile penetration without clitoral stimulation. Here is my problem. If my husband stimulates me before penetration, I can achieve orgasm after a short time. However, after he penetrates I find it impossible to orgasm. Even if he pulls out and stimulates me the same as always, I just can’t get there. Is there such a thing as over stimulation? I feel like sex is a chore for him when we first start because he is so worried about my pleasure before his own. Does anyone have some answers or suggestions?
Thanks
XXX

SOLVED

REPLY

Hey XXX,

Worry and pleasure don’t go together.
Penchant or I may say obsession for orgasm turns off the plain fun of intimacy, the joy of sexual play, the excitement in teasing. “It is essential to have an orgasm”, is the modern myth that has plagued many a couples.

Specifically in your case:
(1) You know how you get an orgasm. So when you want it get it.
(2) Let the insertion and rest of the sex merrily go on.
(3) Be happy that he is happy, satiated and you both love being together.

Return form complexity to simplicity. Please.
Dr. Ashok Koparday
Consultant Sexual Medicine

REPLY
Part of reply by Laura is reproduced here:

You might also want to try a blindfold when you have sex. Many women are distracted by worrying about when and if they are going to have an O. A blindfold cuts out visual distractions and makes it easier for you to concentrate on the physical sensation and how good each stroke feels. That is the key to a good O. They happen again and again when your mind is focused on the physical and nothing else.

Good luck,
Laura Stamps

Author of Erotica and Paranormal Romance Novels
http://www.LauraStamps.blogspot.com (excerpts from all of my novels)
http://laura-stamps8.livejournal.com (my naughty Author Blog/updated daily)

ORGASM IS NOT ESSENTIAL FOR WOMEN TO BE FULLY SEXUALLY SATISFIED, UNLIKE MEN

IT IS NOT ESSENTIAL FOR A WOMAN TO REACH ORGASM TO BE FULLY SEXUALLY SATISFIED.
IN OTHER WORDS, EVEN WITHOUT ORGASM WOMEN CAN FEEL SEXUALLY SATISFIED. THIS IS UNLIKE MEN WHO NEED TO REACH ORGASM TO BE FULLY SEXUALLY SATISFIED.

*** 1/3 rd women have experienced orgasm at some time or the other in their life. These 1/3 rd women do not always have orgasm each time they have sex.

Even if women do not reach climax they are sexually satisfied. This is unlike men, who feel incomplete if there sex does not end with orgasm.

Astonishingly, 2/3 rd of women have never experienced orgasm.
Not having understood this biological difference, sex researchers believe that large population of women have anorgasmic sexual disorder. If they are mistaken, no wonder common person gets worried when sexual partner does not climax. He things he is not good lover.
Girls also wonder if there is some thing wrong with them because they do not always have orgasm.

A woman does not orgasm every time she has sexual intercourse. Though a woman does not have orgasm she can be sexually satisfied.

The above detail beats the modern hype around G-SPOT, about different opinion related to vaginal versus clitoral orgasm and so forth.  Books on female orgasm, depiction of woman’s behavior in not only triple X films, but non adult feature films too have caused a modern myth. This myth is generated and kept alive by popular media, by mistaken notion men have about female sexuality. This modern myth of nymphomaniac has percolated in the population to the extent that many women, consider themselves inferior if they are not horny all the time, ever eager for sex with a handsome hunk.

SUMMARY

IT IS NOT ESSENTIAL FOR A WOMAN TO REACH ORGASM TO BE FULLY SEXUALLY SATISFIED.
IN OTHER WORDS, EVEN WITHOUT ORGASM WOMEN CAN FEEL SEXUALLY SATISFIED. THIS IS UNLIKE  MEN WHO NEED TO REACH ORGASM TO BE FULLY SEXUALLY SATISFIED.

***The statistical proportion 1/3 and 2/3 are approximate estimates of the author. Thorough scientific validated study using large population of women for research is required to get statistically significant data.
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