How to know safe days for sexual intercourse?

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CALENDAR METHOD OR RHYTHM METHOD

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BASAL BODY TEMPERATURE

using BBT Thermometer
Due to the release of the hormone called progesterone, basal body temperature rises at the period of ovulation. In order to detect this rise in temperature, it is necessary to take recordings at the same time, such as first thing in the morning as soon as you wake up every day, before taking any food or fluids. Temperature can increase by 0.5 to 1.6 degrees. Keeping a record for several months will help you detect a pattern in your cycle. Best time for FERTILIZATION is two or three days before temperature hits its high point. Special thermometers called basal thermometers
are used to detect this rise in temperature.
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CERVICAL MUCUS

Another natural way to predict ovulation is by checking cervical mucus. Cervical mucus is almost nonexistent during the infertile phase, and even the little that it is present is brittle. But as you near the time of your ovulation, cervical mucus becomes thick and begins to resemble egg whites. The volume of secretion increases and this is the best time to conceive.

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POSITION OF CERVIX

Checking the position of the cervix is another way of predicting ovulation, though it is more difficult than the other two. At the end of the menstrual cycle, the cervix rests low, feels hard and is closed. The cervix begins to soften as ovulation approaches and reaches a position that is on top of the vagina. During ovulation, the opening of the cervix is wide in order to allow the sperm to enter freely.

Ovulation Calendar – This free ovulation calendar can help you determine your most fertile days.

Rhythm method/Calendar Method for Birth Control
Ovulation Calendar helps you predict your most fertile time of the month (ovulation) so that you can achieve pregnancy. Enter your menstrual cycle information (the start date of your last menstrual period, your menstrual period length and your luteal phase length). Then simply click on “View Calendar” to view your personal ovulation calendar.

HOW TO DETECT THE TIME WHEN OVUM IS LIBERATED?

1. Calendar Method
2. Basal Body Temperature
3. Cervical Position
4. Cervical Mucus

What is ovulation?
Ovulation is the release of mature ovum, which is ready for fertilization.
When spermatozoa swim through the uterus and enter in the Fallopian Tube one spermatozoon (sperm cell) succeeds in mating with the female egg cell, the ovum.

Why should I know about ovulation?
Those who want to avoid pregnancy, that is want to know when it is safe to do sex can benefit using calendar method, also called as rhythm method.

Who cannot use the Calendar Method?
Those girls, women who have irregular menstrual cycles can not rely on Calendar Method.

Who can use Calendar Method for choosing safe days for sex?
Calendar method is applicable for those women who have REGULAR menstrual cycles. If you have regular 26 days, 30 days or 28 days cycle the calendar method is useful.

It is important to know when ovum is available for fertilization. In entire one menstrual cycle only one ovum is liberated.
If your menses are regular than in 12 months only 12 ova will be liberated. (One Ovum per month.) This means if you are having sexual intercourse for 365 days you only have 12 chances of getting pregnant.
One female egg cell (Ovum) is liberated from the ovary 14 days prior to date of expected period.

The days following release of ovum is called the luteal phase.

(menstrual cycle: 28 days, luteal phase: 14 days).

It is recommended that you record your menstrual periods properly it will help you to more accurately predict your likely ovulatory date.

The ovulation calendar at this site http://www.ovulation-calendar.net/
gives option of gender preference, meaning whether you wish to have baby boy or girl.

Boy or Girl: Popularity beats science.
The author does not believe this to be scientifically validated. There is large following of girls and boys who believe in forecast of future based on zodiac signs despite knowing that such predictions of future are neither scientific nor accurate. Similarly, I shall not oppose the luxury of entertaining oneself with the notion of prediction of boy or girl baby.

QUESTION
19 year boy stood up to ask,
“If I and my girl friend are both consenting partners and if we practice safe sex, should we or should we not have sexual intercourse?”

I was asked this during my Question Answer Session that always follows my talk. The flow of talk and the rapport was so mesmerizing that the College students as well as the faculty appeared to be unmindful of the alloted time.

The topic given to me by the faculty of the College was ‘Responsible Sexual Behavior’.

REJOINDER
Why should I tell you what you ought to do?
I can tell you the traffic rules. I can tell you what green signal means. I can tell you penalty what you are likely to incur if you rush through the traffic unmindful of the red signal.

I do not sermonize nor do I mix morals/ethics with sexuality. I am non judgmental. The morals fall in place once the rationale or the facts of the sexual matter are understood. Moreover, it is they this generation who will choose norms of sexual behavior, which may be way different from what it was decades ago. Change in the outlook towards sexual behavior and relationships is welcome. It is inevitable.

SAFE SEX
Safe Sex, most believe, is sex between consenting partners who take care to avoid unwanted pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infection.

UNSAFE SEX
[1] The First factor is
Unwanted pregnancy and
[2] The Second factor is
Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI)
Are these the only two risk factors from which one should protect during sexual intimacy so that it can be called safe sex?
[3]
THE THIRD FACTOR
Before the girl and the boy go in for sex, they have been in love for some months. Even before being in love they have been friends for several months. They gradually get attracted to each other. When this attraction culminates in sex it is called premarital sex or sex before marriage.

We are not talking about getting sex with money or equivalent transaction. We are not talking about one night stands. Of course we are not talking about sex with married partner.

We are talking about sex that follows special relationship, which is more than just friendship. You may call it romance/love/courtship/close friendship.

When the two have been enjoying sex for some time if one of them wants to quit for whatever reason what happens to them.

May be they separate due to parental pressure and disapproval. Both of them experience agony.
All love do not end up in marriage and all love need not end up with sex.

Just go through the story below. It is adapted from a passage in a very popular novel.

The air was suddenly harder to breathe.

“Louise,” Mike said in a low soothing voice, “you have nothing to worry about.

You are completely safe.” We are tested HIV negative, the pregnancy test is negative. We both have spoken to the doctor and confirmed. You will start getting your periods once you relax.

“Do you think that’s what I’m worried about?” I asked in disbelief.

“What else is there?” He was surprised. He might feel the tenor of my emotions, but

he couldn’t read the reasons behind them.

“You heard what Angelina said,” my voice was low, but he could hear me easily, of course. “I cannot live without you Mike. I cannot have relation with any one the way I have with you, even if he is my husband. This is all meaningless. What if you get married to someone else, and I am standing helpless, in love. . . .

[3]
This is THIRD RISK FACTOR of unsafe sex.
The risks of sex are not only unwanted pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections, which includes HIV/AIDS, but also emotional trauma of separation from relationship. If either the boy or the girl quits romantic relation the spurned lover may have anger, vengeance. Hurt, life long guilt, distrust, depression may be experienced by both or either one.
[4]
Is there FOURTH RISK FACTOR of unsafe sex?