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Jessica Burris says:

HOW SPIRITUALITY INCREASES SEX IN WOMEN

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“It is possible female young adults yearn for greater connectedness with other humans,” Burris writes. “Spirituality, at least for women, could be considered a risk factor.”

Spiritual practice in women is risk factor, says Jessica Burris, as it is likely to lead to multiple partners and lower inhibition in women.

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For Women:

“Believing one is intimately tied to other human beings and that interconnectedness and harmony are indispensable may lead one to believe sexual intimacy possesses a divine or transcendent quality in itself.

SPIRITUALITY INCREASED SEX IN WOMEN
In fact, ascribing sacred qualities to sex has been positively associated with positive affective reactions to sex, frequency of sex, and number of sexual partners among university students.

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For women, however, spirituality was the strongest predictor for the number of sexual partners, the frequency of sex, and the tendency to have sex without a condom.

A separate review of studies last year found that sexually unsatisfied women who practiced the Eastern techniques of mindfulness and yoga reported improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms.

HOW WAS RESEARCH DONE

The study’s participants indeed were university students; 353 undergraduates (61 percent of whom were female) answered a questionnaire that asked them about their alcohol use, impulsivity, religiousness, spirituality, and sexual practices. The statements on spirituality, which were ranked by level of agreement, included “In the quiet of my prayers and/or meditations, I find a sense of wholeness,” and “Although individual people may be difficult, I feel an emotional bond with all of humanity.”

HOW SPIRITUALITY DECREASES SEX IN MEN

The study found that spiritual men weren’t sexually affected — in fact, their frequency of sex decreased. The researchers figure men might not view spirituality as sexual because they biologically don’t think of sex as a gateway to emotional intimacy.
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RELIGION ~ SPIRITUALITY

“I think people have been well aware of the role that religious and spiritual matters play in everyday life for a very long time,” said Jessica Burris, one of the study’s researchers at the University of Kentucky. “But in the research literature, the unique qualities of spirituality — apart from religiousness — are not usually considered.”

SPIRITUALITY ~
PERSONALITY ~ RELIGION

“Research suggests that spirituality provides predictive utility over and above personality traits such as conscientiousness, extraversion, and openness. So while it may be the case that spirituality is correlated with other variables that show similar relationships with human sexuality and sexual practices (such as openness to experiences), the relationship we observed, in my opinion, cannot simply be explained away by other variables.”
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SPIRITUALITY DEFINED

According to a research measure known as the Spiritual Transcendence Scale, those qualities are connectedness, universality and prayer fulfillment. But the data found that of the three, connectedness plays the largest role in spiritual sexuality and leads to more sex with more partners, often without the use of condoms.

Sally Law summarizes,
“Women who practiced the Eastern techniques of mindfulness and yoga reported improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms.”
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RESEARCHERS

Researchers with the University of Kentucky College of Medicine, Department of Behavioral Science

Jessica Burris,
Research Investigator may be contacted 859-257-4547. See

http://www.mc.uky.edu/research/Adobe%20Flyers/BEHAV-054_flyer.pdf

http://www.mc.uky.edu/research/clinicaltrials.htm

Sally Law has written about health and sexuality for the Cleveland Clinic, and has appeared regularly as a guest host on Sirius Radio. Her column, The Science of Sex, appears weekly on LiveScience.
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Spirituality Spot Found in Brain

Women More Religious than Men

http://www.livescience.com/culture/090227-religion-men-women.html

What Science Says About Enlightened Sex

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• SOCIAL STATUS THERMOMETER
• COLLEGE FRIENDS ARE TREASURE
• CAUSES OF COLLEGE FRIENDSHIPS TURNING IN TO PREMARITAL SEX
• INDIA RURAL/URBAN

• BEST AGE FOR MARRIAGE

• CHANGING SCENARIO

• COLLEGE ROMANCE —-> SEX —-> EDUCATION

• TAKE HOME MESSAGE

• NOTE FOR PARENTS

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In college friendships grow, some blossom to full romance. Most love affairs are not unhidden. Other college buddies are envious. Many college going boys and girls feel inferior if they do not have a special friend to boast.

College is less a place for study, and more a place for learning social, interpersonal skills and self development.
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SOCIAL STATUS MARKER:

The popularity THERMOMETER in college campus is how many buddies s/he has.
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COLLEGE FRIENDS ARE TREASURE HOUSE

College friendships deserve HIGH VALUE.

Best friendships are formed in College. College friends often become one of the most precious of God’s blessings. College friendships especially after several decades are beneficial, sometimes of immense value, and definitely great solace. Like pickles. The best antic is an old friend.

Some of these friendships turn in romantic relations. Often at play is the five letter word: Crush!!! They eventually fizzle out too. Not a bad learning experience.

How quickly romantic relations jump in to sexual intercourse depends on the culture of geographical place (USA).
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COLLEGE ROMANCE IN

INDIA rural + urban

In India, clandestine premarital sexual intercourse is not uncommon, both in rural as well as urban areas.
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CAUSES OF COLLEGE FRIENDSHIPS TURNING IN PREMARITAL SEX/PROMISCUITY

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In fact premarital sex is on the rise and will continue to be so if the age of marriage is delayed as far as 28 years.

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Consideration/fear of STIs and other complications pale in to insignificance in the face of torrent of gushing emotional physical attraction for love making.
Love making is biological need, but delayed socially.

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Sexual Pleasure is also unsurpassed when the hormones are ripe and ready, which is just after teenage.
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So the

BEST AGE FOR MARRIAGE

is between ages 20 to 25. This makes strong sense, psychologically, physiologically, sociologically, even financially.
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CHANGING SCENARIO

Needless to say, even if the two friends know they are not going to marry, both enjoy ecstatic sex. Promiscuity is on the rise.

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COLLEGE ROMANCE – –> SEX —->EDUCATION

Here non marital mating is far more common. Only 30 % ^[1]of those in love end up in marriage, yet the rest 70 % ^[2] drink to the brim uninhibited sexual pleasures. It is so addictive that even after getting engaged to another guy to whom she is to marry and after marriage when she returns on holidays from husband’s place back home the quest for sexual thrill continues with the ex boy/girl friend.

Though mind boggling, this is unfortunately not uncommon. Yes, there are measures to prevent this from happening.

By and large, parents have to reconcile to the fact that their daughters (sons too) know the use of

• Abstinence
• condom,
• morning after pill,
• urine pregnancy test and
• Medical Termination

of Pregnancy.
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NOTE FOR PARENTS : It is common for me to get emergency calls from girls in distress because they do not know the above. Parents are blissfully unaware of this.

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I remind, that where ever sex education has been rigorously implemented statistically significant difference is reported by scientific studies corroborating the fact that ‘sexual act’ decreased.
Sex Education does not teach how to make babies or how to avoid infections, it teaches RESPONSIBLE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR. Without change in behavior all sex education or AIDS awareness is waste of time and money.

USA:
See

TIME
How to bring an end to the war over sex edBy Amy Sullivan / Anderson Thursday, Mar. 19, 2009
[1][2]
Validated Scientific Studies Need to be done. The values given are Doctor’s personal guesstimates.
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MARRIAGE

• Office Romance and Marriage
• Extra Marital Thrill
• Best Sex
• Volcanic Office Romance
• Is your spouse cheating?
• Forced Sex / Sexual Harassment
• License to Sex

OFFICE ROMANCE is emerging as the commonest way of getting engaged to marry.

5% ^[1]couples who fall in love tie marriage knots.
1. Office Romance is better way of choosing life partner.

This trend is on increase.
It is better than marriage bureau, better than parents combing all relatives to find a few prospective matches.
2. Other thing spiraling is college romance. 3. Chatting and dating will increase though it has its own shade of risk.

Does office romance always lead to marriage?

EXTRA MARITAL THRILL

15 % ^[2]of couples who have romance outside office are engaged in Extra Marital Relations.

The lovers meet knowing fully well that they are not meeting for marriage, as either both or one of them is married. Their clandestine meeting and the magic of mind blowing mating gives BIG high, an unparalleled satisfaction.

Dr. Koparday’s famous dictum:

BEST SEX IS IN EXTRA MARITAL RELATION.
Also
BEST LOVE/INTIMACY (that may not go to sex) IS ALSO IN EXTRA MARITAL RELATIONSHIP.
Premarital Sex is included in Extramarital Sex.

BEST SEX is possible in married couples, who choose to have best sex. It does not come naturally.

Volcanic Office Romance:

Included in this 15 % are 4 % ^[3], both married, who are treading on precarious volcanic path. They are aware that if their family/spouse know about the extra marital affair it could be devastating. Do not be surprised that this fear does not halt their loventure. The attraction or feelings of intimacy/friendship/closeness/love is irresistible and if s/he is not smart or if the spouse is smarter they are caught. They usually justify.

IS YOUR SPOUSE CHEATING YOU?

For the spouse who feels cheated there is definite method of handling the situation.

OFFICE ROMANCE:

FORCED SEX/ SEXUAL HARASSMENT

Forced dating or sex by senior imposed on subordinate is not uncommon. It must be remembered that willingness of subordinate is usually present (it is not rape!). She is tempted, his status, her promotion and lot of favors that come her way are attractive. This she interprets as love. Though the boss makes it explicit that we are meeting on temporary basis, we are not committed. She may revolt if she finds the boss ditching her for another girl, or breaking the relation and the favors.

LICENSE TO (extramarital) SEX

Solution to sexual harassment is both have to sign License of mutual consent. This is now legalized in India.

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[2]
[3]
In the absence of resources for systematic scientific study the above estimates in percentage are given as mere indicative from the author’s clinical experience.
Scientific study on Office Romance needs to be done. Till then we have to do with guesstimates!

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LOVE SUTRA

KOPARDAY'S LOVE SUTRA

Dr. Koparday’s
11
Love Sutras

For every couple to keep love sparkling and alive

KOPARDAY’S ELEVEN

डा. Koparday के
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|| प्यार सूत्र ||

11 प्यार सूत्र हर जोड़े के लिए रखने के लिए स्पार्कलिंग और जिंदा

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निकल जाओ प्यार करते हैं. बाहर जाओ. अक्सर, और सिर्फ तुम दो.

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से दूर एक दूसरे से कुछ ही दिनों में कम से कम के लिए.

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गुस्सा? चोट लगी है? मुझे खुशी है कि? इसे दबाने मत करो. एक्सप्रेस को सही समय पर, सही तरीके से. कहते हैं, “मुझे दुख होता है कहो / गुस्सा / खुशी जब ——- हुआ?”

4

वह जब मधुर भावनाओं नम्रता से व्यक्त कर रहे हैं पसंद है. वह प्यार के लिए सेक्स देता है.

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वह सेक्स के लिए प्यार देता है. शारीरिक सेक्स उसके लिए महत्वपूर्ण है. तुम वह संतुष्ट है यकीन है?

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वह चुपके से उसकी आँखों में एक नायक होना चाहते हैं. एक मौका उसकी विशेषताओं के लिए असली प्रशंसा व्यक्त करने के लिए याद मत करो.

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जब वह बेहतर ‘उपयोग’ कृपया, ‘धन्यवाद’ उसकी तरह बातें करना चाहती है. यह प्रभावी है. लागत कुछ भी नहीं है. तुम उसे दिन, आज के बारे में उसे यह सच में काम करता है. शिकायतों के साथ

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सता सुधार असंभव बनाते हैं.

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क्या पूछना? इसे करो. , इशारा अपने सिर को अपना मुँह बंद करो और सुनो. वह उसके द्वारा सुना जाना पसंद करती है. शिकायत के रूप में अपने शब्दों को मत लो या दोष और बुरा लगता है. जब बाहर बोलते थे उसके लिए एक महत्वपूर्ण जारी है.

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आखिरी तुम उसे एक उपहार दिया? उपहार एक मर्सिडीज कार की आवश्यकता नहीं है. यह एक सरल किया जा सकता है गुलाब. एक ग्रीटिंग कार्ड संवेदनशीलता का चयन करने के लिए उसे एक बहुत मायने रखती है.

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Appreciate कुछ भी और सब कुछ तुम उसके बारे में क्या पसंद है. यह उसके लिए प्यार ज़िंदा रहता है. अब, वह वास्तव में महत्वपूर्ण है.

Koparday’s 11 Love Sutra

Celebrity Oscar Wilde was charged with homosexual offenses under the Criminal Law Amendment. Remembered for epigrams, this great man was found guilty and sentenced to prison for two years. Oscar Wilde was released in 1897 and died ill and bankrupt

In 1891, Wilde had become intimate with Lord Alfred Douglas, and the marquess of Queensberry, Douglas’s father, accused Wilde of homosexual practices. Foolishly, Wilde brought action for libel against the marquess and was himself charged with homosexual offenses under the Criminal Law Amendment, found guilty, and sentenced to prison for two years.

Released in 1897, he lived in France until his death, plagued by ill health and bankruptcy.

His experiences in jail inspired his most famous poem, The Ballad of Reading Gaol (1898), and the apology published by his literary executor as De Profundis (1905).

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http://www.humnet.ucla.edu/humnet/clarklib/wildphot/default.html

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St. Valentine’s Story

I lived in Rome during the third century. That was long, long ago! At that time, Rome was ruled by an emperor named Claudius. I didn’t like Emperor Claudius, and I wasn’t the only one! A lot of people shared my feelings. My name is Valentine.

Claudius wanted to have a big army. He expected men to volunteer to join. Many men just did not want to fight in wars. They did not want to leave their wives and families. As you might have guessed, not many men signed up. This made Claudius furious. So what happened? He had a crazy idea. He thought that if men were not married, they would not mind joining the army. So Claudius decided not to allow any more marriages. Young people thought his new law was cruel. I thought it was preposterous! I certainly wasn’t going to support that law!

Did I mention that I was a priest? One of my favorite activities was to marry couples. Even after Emperor Claudius passed his law, I kept on performing marriage ceremonies — secretly, of course. It was really quite exciting. Imagine a small candlelit room with only the bride and groom and myself. We would whisper the words of the ceremony, listening all the while for the steps of soldiers.

One night, we did hear footsteps. It was scary! Thank goodness the couple I was marrying escaped in time. I was caught. (Not quite as light on my feet as I used to be, I guess.) I was thrown in jail and told that my punishment was death.

I tried to stay cheerful. And do you know what? Wonderful things happened. Many young people came to the jail to visit me. They threw flowers and notes up to my window. They wanted me to know that they, too, believed in love.

One of these young people was the daughter of the prison guard. Her father allowed her to visit me in the cell. Sometimes we would sit and talk for hours. She helped me to keep my spirits up. She agreed that I did the right thing by ignoring the Emperor and going ahead with the secret marriages. On the day I was to die, I left my friend a little note thanking her for her friendship and loyalty. I signed it, “Love from your Valentine.”

I believe that note started the custom of exchanging love messages on Valentine’s Day. It was written on the day I died, February 14, 269 A.D. Now, every year on this day, people remember. But most importantly, they think about love and friendship. And when they think of Emperor Claudius, they remember how he tried to stand in the way of love, and they laugh — because they know that love can’t be beaten!

Specially Contributed by
Dr. Hemant Inamdar