• Pressure in the lower pelvis

• Painful urination (dysuria)

• Frequent or urgent need to urinate
• Need to urinate at night (nocturia)
• Abnormal urine color (cloudy)
• Blood in the urine (hematuria)
• Foul or strong urine odor

WHO SUFFERS FROM HONEYMOON CYSTITIS
The condition primarily affects women, but can affect either sex and all age groups.
WHAT ARE THE OTHER NAMES OF HONEY MOON CYSTITIS
The adjective ‘Honeymoon’ is attached to this lower urinary tract infection because it often happens during honeymoon of the newly wed couple.
  OMG!   Did you say Oh! My God!
“Honeymoon Cystitis”.
Honeymoon urethritis is the medically appropriate term when the symptoms as mentioned above are noticed during honeymoon period. 

• Honeymoonitis,

•  Honeymoon Disease,
• Honeymoon Bladder,
• honeymooner’s cystitis 
• honeymoon syndrome.
• honeymooncystitis
• honey moon cystitis.

WHAT IS THE CAUSE OF HONEYMOON CYSTITIS
Frequent or prolonged sexual activity, as would typically be expected in the honeymoon period of a marriage is supposed to be the cause of triggering Honeymoon urethritis. The culprit, spoilsport, is most often the microorganism called coliform bacteria. No foreign organisms are implicated. It is the local bacteria that cause urethritis. These colliform bacteria get transferred from around anal region to the urethra, then to the bladder.
 
WHAT ARE TYPES OF HONEYMOON CYSTITIS SYNDROME
There are several types of cystitis of which bacterial cystitis is the commonest. 
Hemorrhagic cystitis and Interstitial cystitis are rare. 
HOW TO PREVENT HONEYMOON CYSTITIS
CLEAN: Cleaning of male and female genitals with soap and water (not antiseptic please) before sexual activity is recommended. Taking bath before sex is also wonderful.
HYGIENE: Daily during bath and after defecation as well as urination it is advisable to wash with clean water if not water and soap and dry the genitals before parking them inside the clothes.  
 
Honeymoon cystitis | Urinary Tract Infections | UTI | Urethritis | Bladder Infections
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I or she or he SHOULD know.
Accept that you don’t know the sex encyclopedia. You don’t have enough sexperience with the chosen one.
So, do not feel you are imbecile or impotent.
Do not get dejected.
That means if you goof up somewhere in sex play, don’t rush to call Dr. Ashok Koparday.
It is not uncommon to goof up. It’s useful to know avoidable blunders of newly wed.

We had a perfectly wonderful honeymoon, except that we did not have sex. _avk

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This is how they goof up

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I couldn’t get it up on the FIRST NIGHT (SUHAGRAT). Damn it.
Read this.
To put it in brief (pun intended), do not attempt insertion on the first few nights after the weddingas the traditional Hindu marriage rituals are pretty exhausting. You will be tired. So embrace each other, do some foreplay and take rest.
If you take my word that should be enough. However, if you are hooked on to old beliefs surrounding to SUHAGRAT you will immensely benefit from reading this.
LESSON ONE
LESSON TWO
LESSON THREE

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I do not know why (you can guess it though), but it is so common that women will have their menses during honeymoon. Deduct those many days from your itinerary.
Your first experience; honey tastes bitter.
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The second experience of bitter honey is honeymoon cystitis.
The correct word would be honeymoon urethritis.
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What happens?
Symptoms are your wife complains of burning sensation when passing urine. The frequency of urination increases. This can be pretty distressing for her. The husband becomes the brave man who gets her to a doctor. The urinary tract infection is well taken care of. That’s how you may spend precious days of your honeymoon.
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How to Prevent honeymoon cystitis?
Maintain good hygiene of vulva (the external female genitalia). Just particular care with soap and water daily while bathing is a good life time habit. If you do not do it, start.
Should I carry medicines for honey moon cystitis?
It would be prudent to carry or know some medicines that are given as a treatment for honeymoon cystitis (urethritis, lower urinary tract infection)
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Yeh! the following may appear elementary, but why not have a glance quickly the paragraph below.
Why do women get Honey moon cystitis?
The external female genitals, vulva, that lies between two legs exactly opposite to the top of the skull. The vaginal opening is below the urinary opening. Both are enclosed within labia minora, (Minor lips) and further ahead two V shaped pads labia majora (Major lips). While attempting insertion there is some pressure and rubbing on and in the external reproductive organs of the female (vulva). Microorganisms flare up resulting in lower urinary tract infection.

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Now let me shift attention to the guys. Did anybody tell you that you can be damned while trying to put on the condom?
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How to wear a condom?
Why should I know how to wear a condom?
Very often while putting on the condom, the attention gets shifted and focused on wearing the condom resulting in loss of erection. This pisses him off. He may feel utterly frustrated if he makes desperate attempts to get an erection. Know that erection cannot be willed. It does not contain voluntary muscles like those in your hand. With voluntary muscles you can lift your hand at your will.

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Erection happens only in the presence of sexual mood and not as and when you wish. eg. Even if you want to get an erection, you won’t get it when in you are in serious business meeting. If you are dejected any amount of trying is counterproductive. ‘Trying’ with her or your help is a sure recipe for not getting back erection.

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What do I do?

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Keep your Cool
At the critical time just leave attempting the insertion aspect. Stay confident. Begin talking, kissing or cuddling as you did when you began. You are bound to get an erection even if you do not want it. Important is to know that erection can come and go and therefore it is important to be confident.
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Allowing sexual fantasies.
Another method is to allow yourself sexual fantasies that you know have excited you before when masturbating. Do not tell your fantasy to the lady. It is just imagination that gets you aroused due to which you get erection.

How to prevent losing of erection midway as while wearing a condom?
You would neither want feeling imbecile or impotent. So do this.
Read the details of ‘How to wear a condom’ that comes with the condom box.
Practice using condom beforehand.
Before marriage or whenever you can, buy condom and practice wearing it during erection when you are alone, like when you are masturbating.

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Also
You may lose the sexual mood because of the interruption caused by wearing condom.
Any other interruption like a door bell or mobile phone ringing is as bad.
Here is a picture joke about wearing condoms.
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Pictures showing how to wear a condom?
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question about FIRST SEX by a girl

Hi Doctor,

I am 25 year old girl and married for last 1 and half yr. I want to ask a query regarding my sexual relationship with my husband.
Since the time we are married, we tried doing the intercourse, but everytime it failed.

I am very much afraid of intercourse, as soon as he comes close and is about to insert i get tensed and tightened my legs, which pushes him back.

That makes him loose his temper and stops talking with me for sometime..

This fear could be one of the reason, we don’t try the intercourse regularly….hardly once or twice a month…
I have a fear that it would bleed badly…and hence i do not allow him to closer to me..

kindly advise how do i overcome this fear..since we are planning to have a baby by next year.

Thanks and Regards,
Mrs. xxx

DOCTOR’S NOTE

MYTH
There is pain initially. Pain subsides later on. There is often bleeding during first sex.

The above is ALL the knowledge about sex that 90.8% girls (who have not had premarital sex) have before marriage.
FACT
A girl need not at all have pain during first sexual intercourse. Sex is related to joy (anand) .

WHY IS THERE PAIN BLEEDING DURING FIRST SEXUAL INTERCOURSE?

It is this fear of pain that causes spasm of the pubococcygeus muscles that surround the vaginal opening. Thus the vaginal opening is not open like a round hollow space O. The vaginal opening gets clamped tight as a reflex action in anticipation of pain. It is like you shutting your mouth tight. If someone were to force feed you, the lips will pain and may bleed too.

When the penis is thrusted forcefully it leads to pain and bleeding. This experience is totally avoidable with proper general knowledge about sex, especially first sexual intercourse.

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i m jst 23 yrs. i m a virgin, i think i have a sex problem, coz whenever i try to attempt sex with my partner, my pennis dont support me. i think i m facing this problem bcoz of so much
masterbating. wht is the solution doctor. plz help me coz i m getting marry in this year.
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Doctor’s Expert Medical Opinion (FREE):
Hi Jagdish,
(Name changed)

Inability to insert penis in vagina during sexual intercourse is called unconsummated (unconsummated) sex.
CAUSES
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“ i m jst 23 yrs. i m a virgin, _ _ _ _”Not knowing how to do is foremost cause of penis not going in vagina during sex. I like the word you have used ‘virgin’. You have reason to be glad that this experience is a certificate that you both are virgin. What better proof can you have?
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“ _ _ _ problem bcoz of so much masterbating _ _ _”

Write this permanently on your brain,

“MASTURBATION DOES NOT CAUSE ANY HARMFUL EFFECT EVEN IF YOU HAVE DONE IN EXCESS AND BEGUN EARLY IN AGE.

MASTURBATION IS BENEFICIAL FOR HEALTH AND USEFUL SEXUAL OUTLET. MASTURBATION IS THE ONLY METHOD THAT IS 100% SAFE SEX.”

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Not being able to insert penis (dick) in vagina (cunt) during sexual intercourse (fucking) makes any male nervous and diffident. When further attempts result in the same disappointing experience (“I am not able to fuck her.”) the male develops difficulty in erection, erection not strong as before, premature ejaculation. This is another reason why penis vagina sex does not happen.
DOCTOR, HOW COMMON IS THIS CONDITION?
Not being able to insert penis in vagina during sex is not uncommon.
More than 50% couples going for honeymoon are not able to insert penis in vagina during sexual intercourse. They do and should enjoy foreplay though.
WHAT IS THE TREATMENT?
“ _ _ _ _ _. wht is the solution doctor. plz help me coz i m getting marry in this year.”

I begin with SEX JOY THERAPY step 1For you too, I strongly recommend this part of the first step: not to even attempt insertion of penis in vagina. This is so because you are going to fail insertion and each time you try you will be more nervous and secondary problems related to erection, discharge invariably set in.
SOLUTION: Do not attempt insertion until you get proper guidance from experienced Marriage Counselor/Sex Therapist. This is what you require to regain confidence before marriage.

You will have healthy fantastically exciting sexual intercourse because this problem can DEFINITELY BE SOLVED.
REFERENCES that will be useful for you:
Look at my reply to the question

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(6 days to closing) First time sex can you advice for male
i dont know how to have sex with my girlfriend. so please help me to know the procedure to have sex with her. how to start and what to do ,how to do. please help me.
– gala, india

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MY DOCTOR TELLS: BEST AGE FOR MARRIAGE IS 20 YEARS TO 25 YEARS.

MY DOCTOR TELLS
WHY 20 TO 25 YEARS IS BEST FOR MARRIAGE

The testosterone hormone and other hormones are at crazy high in teens. Puberty (Adolescence) kick starts growth in the reproductive system so that a child matures into grown up adult capable of bearing healthy children. This is the time when sexual arousal (romance, love) rises to unprecedented peak. Nature’s law commands human body to indulge in sexual activity. Your child has begun to experience pleasure sensation of different kind, sexual pleasure,
Physically, emotionally, intellectually, instinctively, intuitively, ethically you have God’s master piece, the adult human being, ready by the time teenage is over.

MY DOCTOR TELLS DEFINITION OF TEEN

Teen =thirteen to nineteen.

Nature’s universal intrinsic law of development, the bio rhythm, does not and will not wait or postpone the cascade of biological changes of ripening for fertility & best progeny (sexual pleasure included). It is Nature prepares human being for procreation/recreation at the optimum time. It is not Nature’s business or God’s job to wait till you finish your studies or settle in business or job. In the mangoe season mangoes will ripen & fall whether you pluck them or not.

So when sexual drive and fertility is at its peak it is the best time for conjugal union. (Throughout this chapter read sex also as love or romance.)

It also gives sufficient time for the couple to establish strong bonding in their relationship. This is the single most important fundamental foundation of quality rich marriage.

Not to say that if the girl & the boy find they are mismatch they become more prudent & there is time enough to find the right match.
Did you say they are too young for their life’s decision?
I disagree. You have respected their intelligence to vote, meaning to choose who is the right person to govern the town, the state, the nation. You respect their maturity by allowing them to view movies, which are strictly for grown up adults and prohibited for the kids. Besides, it is better that the young decide and not the old as to what is good for their own lives. They can certainly seek guidance from the old folk as also learn from their mistakes. (The next generation cannot be carbon copy of the previous generation.)

WHAT ABOUT THEIR HIGHER EDUCATION, THEIR JOB
They can be steady and pursue their learning, unlearning & vocation. In committed relation they have healthy sexual outlet. Romance, love, sex are complementary not contradictory to their learning to live and earn.

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IMPORTANT

This third chapter of the basics of WHAT TO DO on suhagraat, (सुहागरात) is perhaps the most important and my doctor tells a reason that is the simplest of all.

MY DOCTOR TELLS definition of Good Girl
A good girl is supposed to be the girl who does not speak about sex, does not watch those kinds of things, does not touch or explore her own sexual organs.

WHAT I MEAN BY SUHAGRAT सुहागरात OR FIRST SEX?

By suhagraat, सुहागरात I mean not only the first night of wedding, but also the first few weeks.
By suhagraat, I mean not only wedding, but I mean first sex or first few making outs before first sexual intercourse in a relationship that is committed, married or otherwise.

MY DOCTOR TELLS THE

REASON

How can a girl who has never stood naked with all her clothes off in her own home in front of a mirror be comfortable with the idea of sleeping (sexual act is way beyond) naked on the first day of the marriage सुहागरात with a person whom she knows just for a short period?

SEX IS A FOUR LETTER WORD, LOVE.

SOCIO CULTURAL MEANING

WHO IS ‘GOOD GIRL’?

Even today (‘Today’ as used here is not just the time of my writing this. This ‘today’ is going to be ‘today’, whichever decade you are reading this.) socio-cultural norms in Asian Indians define a good girl as chaste^[2], not talking, asking, and doing anything about the three-letter word ‘sex’. A good girl is supposed to be the girl who does not speak about sex, does not watch those kinds of things, does not touch or explore her own sexual organs.

THINK OF HER PLIGHT

Can you imagine the magnitude of her plight on suhagraat सुहागरात?
You cannot imagine if you are a guy. The Good Girls, however, will accede to this.

FIRST IMPRESSION
Most likely, you are dating or engaged to such a Good Girl. So bear in mind: When you are gentle and not pouncing on her as an animal (She remembers the rape scene) for sex, she will respect you more. This would be your first impression. The boy is kind, considerate and does not force himself on the girl, but gives time for more intimacy and her willingness before he indulges in insertion.

MY DOCTOR TELLS HAVE SEX. NO SEX
DOCTOR DOES NOT MEAN ‘NO SEX’.
MY DOCTOR TELLS

DEFINITION OF SEX

I am not saying, “Do not have sex”. Sex is not just peno-vaginal insertion.
Sex, is a four letter word, LOVE.
Love includes trust, time, talk; touch . . . ^[1] insertion is far away, unless you are with a prostitute.

MAKING OUT . MAKING LOVE . FOREPLAY
Have foreplay as much as you wish as many days/weeks as you wish, literally to your heart’s content, but refrain from insertion of penis, the sexual intercourse till she is okay with it.

Note
VIRGIN ^[2]
Virgin girl may not be chaste.
Chaste girl may not be virgin.

Acknowledgement
1
The T’s of love 1. Trust 2. Time 3. Talk 4. Touch are derived from Dr. Mahinder Watsa’s talk.
2
Dr. Prakash Kothari’s famous definition and distinction of VIRGINITY

First sex

One important reason not to hasten insertion of penis in vagina (sexual intercourse) is that the vaginal opening gets clamped and closed due to natural fear of initial experience in the newly wed.
This phenomenon, where subconsciously the muscles around vagina (pubococcygeous muscles) contract due to which the vaginal passage opening get closed is called vaginismus. It is not uncommon and is one of the main reasons of panic in the newly wed groom.

This inability to insert penis in vagina is not uncommon in the newly wed. Over 50% of couples who go for honey moon return without having had sexual intercourse. This situation is called unconsummated marriage.

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What are the reasons of unconsummated marriage?
How to ascertain vaginismus is the cause of unconsummation without going to a doctor?
What is the treatment for vaginismus?
What can be done to be able to insert penis in vagina without having to go to a doctor?
How to be sure that the unconsummation is not because of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation?
Does excessive masturbation cause this problem?
Is unconsummation due to male sexual problem or due to female sexual problem?
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FIRST NIGHT AFTER WEDDING

SUHAGRAT
सुहागरात
The first night after the wedding is supposed to be a very special night for the bride and the groom. The popular hindi cinema in India shows a bedroom with a bed having four props on its four edges. Garlands and flowers held on the props lavishly decorate the bed. The bride coyly brings a glass of sweet milk flavored and enriched with dry fruits. The film hero who is reclining on the bed looks amorously at his shy wife and grips her hand. He pulls her close to him. The wife bashfully sits near him and as he tries to bring her closer to him the romantic atmosphere mounts. Then the censors step in.

MY DOCTOR TELLS:
It is best to avoid sexual intercourse on the first few days/nights of wedding ceremony. Instead hug each other and go to sleep.
OR
Talk, indulge in sexual foreplay, but do not attempt insertion of penis in vagina.
Why? There are many reasons why the insertion will not happen in the hectic tiring wedding ceremony. To know read ahead . . .

WHAT TO DO – WRONG BELIEF

FIRST NIGHT SUHAGRAT

सुहागरात
Many a fresh husbands have similar bed enthusiastically garlanded by friends for their very first night. He believes that this being the night he has to do sexual intercourse. Not doing so would be abnormal and the bride would look down upon him. What a first impression? Also, he doesn’t want to be ridiculed by his friends/relatives for failing on his first night. In some Arab countries relatives wait outside expecting to be shown bloodstained cloth, which is considered, proof of the girl’s virginity. Bleeding during the first sexual act is considered natural by many people world over.

WHAT TO DO – MY DOCTOR TELLS

FIRST NIGHT SUHAGRAT

सुहागरात
So the marriage and sexual health experts’ advice that on the first night since the couple is most likely to be tired after the grueling wedding ceremony it is best to avoid sexual intercourse and instead hug each other and go to sleep in order to wake up refreshed for the next day. You have an entire lifetime for sex. Not heeding this sane simple advice if the hero goes ahead for sexual intercourse it is most likely going to result in sexual experience which is less than satisfactory in many ways; sometimes even leading to a sour, disappointing experience.

MY DOCTOR TELLS: WHY

In the traditional Indian marriages the boy and the girl sleep late, way past midnight, yet have to wake up early in the morning. Not only the previous days but the entire wedding day as well is very tiring for the groom and the bride. They have to force smiles on their faces as they go through the motion of greeting individually friends and relatives who are lined in a queue waiting their turn to go on the podium where under the glaring lights of the cameraman they pose for the video shooting. By the end of the day, you bet, they are dead tired and would drop off to sleep like wooden logs. But at night in bed he labors under the pressure “I have to do sex on my first wedding night”. Commonsense tells how inappropriate is the demand on oneself for sexual activity when the couple is drained out and fatigued. Think.

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WHAT I HEAR: MALE CONCERNS

What will she think of me? Would she not be disappointed if I don’t do sexual intercourse? Doesn’t she crave for it? It’s not in sync with manliness. It isn’t macho. It is not the normal thing. Will I not be a laughing stock amidst friends and relatives? First Night comes only once in one’s lifetime. It’s special. Should you let go on such a unique occasion? Is it the right thing to do? These would be the typical doubts entertained by the ignorant.

MY DOCTOR TELLS

First, understand that the bride would not resent you but would in fact thank you and appreciate if you choose to abstain from sexual intercourse on the first night. You could even speak to her to find out if it’s acceptable to her if you call it a day and both take rest, keeping the sex thing for the next available opportunity so that it’s pleasant and thoroughly enjoyable for both.
Second thing is you are not obliged to tell outsiders what’s happened or not happened inside the bedroom. It’s your personal choice. It’s your private matter. And even if they know, don’t you worry, for your reasons are sound and sane.

Cool man. Cool.

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सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात सुहागरात

You will find the dictionary meaning of vaginismus titled, WHAT IS VAGINISMUS here –>
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Below is synopsis of Medical Facts pertaining to vaginismus; directly coming from the clinical experience of Sex Therapist, Dr. Ashok Koparday, titled CONSEQUENCE OF VAGINISMUS.

Note that here the word vaginismus is often used in place of unconsummated marriage.

CONSEQUENCE OF VAGINISMUS
VAGINISMUS AND UNCONSUMMATED MARRIAGE/SEX
In unconsummated (unconsumated) marriage the couple is in distress because sexual intercourse with penis going in vagina has not yet happened.
CONSEQUENCES OF VAGINISMUS
Vaginismus leads to dyspareunia (pain during sexual intercourse) and unconsummated marriage/sex, meaning there is no insertion of penis in vagina during couples sex.

CONSEQUENCES OF VAGINISMUS, COUPLE, FAMILY
Newly wed couple keep the fact that they have not had sex (peno-vaginal insertion) secret.
When elders want to hear good news of pregnancy from the couple the convenient excuse is ‘family planning’ for one or the other reason.

IS MAN IMPOTENT?
Even though underlying cause of unconsummation is VAGINISMUS almost without exception the MALE blames himself.

To find the dictionary meaning of vaginismus click here WHAT IS VAGINISMUS?

CAUSE OF UNCONSUMMATION
WRONG BELIEF OF MEN
The guy believes he is sexually inadequate (impotent) and this myth screws up his life. This is because culturally throughout the world the idea is ‘the man fucks his wife.’ So, it is man who does sex.

WHY CAN HUSBAND NOT DO SEX (wrong belief)?
His energy for insertion of penis has been drained by past habit of frequent masturbation and loss of semen.
Most common mistaken belief of the guy hence the girl are unconsummation is because of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. She says, his thing gets limp too soon.
Man believes he is sexually inadequate.

HOW VAGINISMUS AFFECTS MENS HEALTH?
Macho – manly – ego crashes and the guy shamefully suffers in silence. Vaginismus that causes inability to insert penis causes severe serious humiliation to men. Men often go in depression.

HOW WOMEN DEAL WITH VAGINISMUS?
In the newly wed couple almost without exception the wife gives her husband total emotional support. She does not confide the guy’s sex problem (so called impotence) to any one to spare him from disgrace. However, she too does not know that the unconsummation is or could be because of vaginismus.

WHY WOMAN IS NOT AT FAULT IN VAGINISMUS?

NOTE THAT THE WOMAN TOO IS NOT TO BE BLAMED FOR VAGINISMUS because by definition it is involuntary contraction of vaginal opening on attempting insertion.

There is inability of the penis to go in vagina even if female partner/wife is aroused and well lubricated, even if she is intellectually willing for insertion or prepared for pain.

HUSBAND WIFE RELATION -
FURTHER CONSEQUENCE
Wife goads husband to get medical help to resolve the problem, but it can take up to 2 years for the guy to summon courage to step in to the Sex Therapist’s Office. This too happens when wife gets vexed as she can no more bear his procrastination. Wife has to literally threaten her husband, “I am leaving home,” “I am leaving you,” “Let’s get divorced”, “I will disclose this matter to family/friends”. It is then that husband takes an appointment with the counselor.

HOW COMMON IS VAGINISMUS
It is not uncommon to find in newly wed that the couple has not had sexual intercourse/sex with insertion of penis in vagina. The single major cause for unconsummated marrriage/sex is vaginismus.
We get cases that come for therapy 6 hours, 6 days, even 6 years after marriage.

PHYSICAL EXAMINATION
I do not even have to touch the woman, leave apart, gynecological examination to get the diagnosis and give results.

INVESTIGATIONS
For diagnosis and successful management, I have never had to take recourse to blood test, 2 D Color Doppler Study, and other investigation modalities.

VAGINISMUS WHY (ASIAN) INDIAN DOCTORS HAVE TO BE EXTRA SKILLED, MORE EFFECTUAL
Indian Doctors specializing in Sex Therapy require MORE SPECIALIZATION
In India, Sex Therapist have to be extremely skillful as often the female partner never comes to the doctor’s office.
Hence, in India, Sex Therapist has to have more dexterity than their fellow Sex Therapists in US, Canada, UK and other European countries.

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