Unconsummated First Sex. No Insertion of Penis in Vagina
Even months after marriage when there is no sexual intercourse with penis entering the vagina it is disturbing to the couple, more so to the guy.
This condition is called unconsummated marriage or unconsummated sex.
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Is it due to Erectile Dysfunction or Premature Ejaculation or Vaginismus?
Unconsummated Marriage: MISTAKEN BELIEF – (MYTH)
Usually the boy and therefore the girl thinks that he has
- poor erection (erectile dysfunction). The erection does not last long enough, hence he is not able to have sex.
The newly wed wife may call it as
The guy may believe he has
- premature ejaculation hence he is not able to do insertion during sex after marriage.
- Penis size is small
- Foreskin cannot be pulled back completely
Unconsummated Sex: CASE HISTORY- FROM SEX FILES
The boy is ashamed, crestfallen believing that he failed to do sex. He may avoid sexual activity, with the excuse that he is tired at night and work till late at night. Even if a normal male has this amount of misery and self abnegation he will not be able to achieve good hard on or erection present during foreplay may wane just as he is about to attempt insertion.
I have had cases who shunned going to wife resulting in infamy and ultimately separation.
I have had friends bringing in the guy because they found him attempting suicide by jump over the bridge into deep waters. He exhibits signs of depression. See HEALTHMETER®
More commonly, he is so guilt ridden that he avoids going to Therapist for help since it is humiliating to have to go to a Sexologist. Wife coaxes repeatedly for 2 years, he promises he will go to doctor, but keeps postponing, wife threatens to leave him, he reaches the Sex Therapist’s Office.
The guy goes to Sex Therapist/Counselor to seek treatment for Erectile Dysfunction or Premature Ejaculation, whatever he believes to be the fault with him.
Rarely, the Newly Wed girl goes to a Gynecologist who prescribes Local Anesthetic Gel, sometimes Sildenafil too, with the words, “Don’t worry.”
It is true that most health care professionals/Family Physicians don’t go beyond placating, “It can happen due to inexperience,” “Don’t worry,” “Keep trying.”
(A client told me that in his mind he replied to the Doctor, “I would certainly not worry if it had happened to you. Damn it, I am worried, it is has screwed up my sex life. Do something about it.”)
The information regarding unconsummated marriage can be found here
Unconsummated Sex: CAUSE (MYTH)
In the words of the newly wed guy:
“It is because of weakness that has resulted from excess masturbation, which I began very early in childhood.”
“Bachpan ki galti”
“Hath say karne ki buri adat”
Masturbation is implicated as the cause. This (mistaken) belief may be reinforced by friends, quacks or advertisements by quacks.
Newly wed have not been able to do sex, meaning, not been able to do penetrative sexual intercourse, the penis has not gone in vagina during sex. This is called unconsummated sex, or unconsummated marriage.
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Hardly any one knows the word ‘unconsummated’. Hence I have chosen some key words below to help those who are looking for help with the condition called ‘unconsummated’ , ‘unconsummated marriage’, or ‘unconsummated sex’.
first sexual intercourse
first sexual intercourse
after marriage not happened yet
no insertion during sex
during sex newly married
first time sexual intercourse
how do you have sex
how to have sex
information on sexual intercourse
pain with intercourse
counseling first sexual intercourse
couples how to have sex
dating could not do
penetration during sex
dealing with premature ejaculation
during penetration pain
emotional confidence lost
first wedding night
help honey moon
could not do sex
husband poor erection
intercourse not yet
after 3 years of marriage
This labor is called for because the merriam-webster medical dictionary search for the word unconsummated results in: No entries found