vaginismus-consequence

You will find the dictionary meaning of vaginismus titled, WHAT IS VAGINISMUS here –>
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Below is synopsis of Medical Facts pertaining to vaginismus; directly coming from the clinical experience of Sex Therapist, Dr. Ashok Koparday, titled CONSEQUENCE OF VAGINISMUS.

Note that here the word vaginismus is often used in place of unconsummated marriage.

CONSEQUENCE OF VAGINISMUS
VAGINISMUS AND UNCONSUMMATED MARRIAGE/SEX
In unconsummated (unconsumated) marriage the couple is in distress because sexual intercourse with penis going in vagina has not yet happened.
CONSEQUENCES OF VAGINISMUS
Vaginismus leads to dyspareunia (pain during sexual intercourse) and unconsummated marriage/sex, meaning there is no insertion of penis in vagina during couples sex.

CONSEQUENCES OF VAGINISMUS, COUPLE, FAMILY
Newly wed couple keep the fact that they have not had sex (peno-vaginal insertion) secret.
When elders want to hear good news of pregnancy from the couple the convenient excuse is ‘family planning’ for one or the other reason.

IS MAN IMPOTENT?
Even though underlying cause of unconsummation is VAGINISMUS almost without exception the MALE blames himself.

To find the dictionary meaning of vaginismus click here WHAT IS VAGINISMUS?

CAUSE OF UNCONSUMMATION
WRONG BELIEF OF MEN
The guy believes he is sexually inadequate (impotent) and this myth screws up his life. This is because culturally throughout the world the idea is ‘the man fucks his wife.’ So, it is man who does sex.

WHY CAN HUSBAND NOT DO SEX (wrong belief)?
His energy for insertion of penis has been drained by past habit of frequent masturbation and loss of semen.
Most common mistaken belief of the guy hence the girl are unconsummation is because of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. She says, his thing gets limp too soon.
Man believes he is sexually inadequate.

HOW VAGINISMUS AFFECTS MENS HEALTH?
Macho – manly – ego crashes and the guy shamefully suffers in silence. Vaginismus that causes inability to insert penis causes severe serious humiliation to men. Men often go in depression.

HOW WOMEN DEAL WITH VAGINISMUS?
In the newly wed couple almost without exception the wife gives her husband total emotional support. She does not confide the guy’s sex problem (so called impotence) to any one to spare him from disgrace. However, she too does not know that the unconsummation is or could be because of vaginismus.

WHY WOMAN IS NOT AT FAULT IN VAGINISMUS?

NOTE THAT THE WOMAN TOO IS NOT TO BE BLAMED FOR VAGINISMUS because by definition it is involuntary contraction of vaginal opening on attempting insertion.

There is inability of the penis to go in vagina even if female partner/wife is aroused and well lubricated, even if she is intellectually willing for insertion or prepared for pain.

HUSBAND WIFE RELATION -
FURTHER CONSEQUENCE
Wife goads husband to get medical help to resolve the problem, but it can take up to 2 years for the guy to summon courage to step in to the Sex Therapist’s Office. This too happens when wife gets vexed as she can no more bear his procrastination. Wife has to literally threaten her husband, “I am leaving home,” “I am leaving you,” “Let’s get divorced”, “I will disclose this matter to family/friends”. It is then that husband takes an appointment with the counselor.

HOW COMMON IS VAGINISMUS
It is not uncommon to find in newly wed that the couple has not had sexual intercourse/sex with insertion of penis in vagina. The single major cause for unconsummated marrriage/sex is vaginismus.
We get cases that come for therapy 6 hours, 6 days, even 6 years after marriage.

PHYSICAL EXAMINATION
I do not even have to touch the woman, leave apart, gynecological examination to get the diagnosis and give results.

INVESTIGATIONS
For diagnosis and successful management, I have never had to take recourse to blood test, 2 D Color Doppler Study, and other investigation modalities.

VAGINISMUS WHY (ASIAN) INDIAN DOCTORS HAVE TO BE EXTRA SKILLED, MORE EFFECTUAL
Indian Doctors specializing in Sex Therapy require MORE SPECIALIZATION
In India, Sex Therapist have to be extremely skillful as often the female partner never comes to the doctor’s office.
Hence, in India, Sex Therapist has to have more dexterity than their fellow Sex Therapists in US, Canada, UK and other European countries.

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