WHY LEARN RELATIONSHIP SKILLS

For long lasting harmonious bonding, Intimacy Building, the Girl and the Boy who are going to get married ought to learn RELATIONSHIP SKILLS.

What changes for the girl after marriage?

The girl who is going to get married comes from a different background because you chose to marry a girl from different family, that is not within your own family. May be her parents are liberal and she grew up in a home where she was treated on par with any boy. Geographical location, religion, caste, creed, language, skin color, customs are noticeable differences.

The definite difference or change for the girl is that her daily routine, people around her are different than what was before.

The people with whom she stays, their daily routine, dealing with expectations and attitudes of all the different people called as in-laws. These are some of the things (not all) that change for her. May be the state or country and the climate is different too. She gets a package deal; meaning by marrying just one boy, she (legally) gets mother in law, sister in law, brother in law, father in law, all those in laws with whom she has to relate daily. For the boy even his pillow may not have changed, but for the girl there is a sea change when she gets married and comes to stay over at the boy’s house with his  parents. For Indians who live in Asia this is the traditional, typical set up that begins from the very day she gets married.

There is no teaching of “Relationship Skills” for the girl who gets married. The choice is between learning Relationship Skills or Relationships Kill.

The executives working in blue chip companies, corporates that are well established, the profit churners, almost every year have training programs dealing with

• Relationship Management,
• Team Building,
• Leadership Qualities,
• Effective Communication,
• Creativity,
• Time Management and
• so forth.

Better the company, better the corporate training, hence better is the company.

However, for marriage there is no such training that would empower to live harmonious and happy married life. Long lasting harmonious bonding, Intimacy Building a neither the girl nor the boy nor their parents receive any training. In the vital aspect of married relationship, in ones daily living, training in Relationship Skills is missing in present times. Even the idea that one can empower oneself to realize harmony in one’s own married life by learning certain skills about handling relationships is direly missing today.

What would happen if you had to drive car without learning to drive a car?

Relationship skills help to navigate in the turbulent water of marriage. Just saying, “WISH YOU A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE,” is silly.  Even the awareness about the necessity (and availability) of Relationship Skills is missing.

Just going to the church or temple on an auspicious day and time is not enough to know how to handle relationships after marriage. It is not a part of your school or college curriculum like history or geography is. Neither the time nor the money spent for religious, sanctimonious ceremony, gaiety food and party for hundreds of invitees, and registering your marriage on a piece of document give you Relationship Skills. For harvesting richness, deeper, long lasting satisfaction through happy union called marriage learning Relationship Skills is as vital as learning to fly a plane is important for the pilot.